Where am I and how did I get here?
I just want to do what’s right – Am I doing the best I can?
Why do I feel so anxious?
What am I supposed to do next?
Have you ever woken up in the dark asking yourself these questions?
A friend once told me, “if you don’t question yourself at least once in a while, you’re probably a sociopath.”
Here's a process to get you out of that funk:
- Talk to as many people as you possibly can.It’s easy to feel like no one can fully understand, and you’re probably right. But that’s exactly why you should talk to them! If they saw everything as you do they wouldn’t be of value. So find people, on purpose, that can’t see it like you do. You’ll be surprised at how insightful they are.Plus, sometimes you just need to hear yourself state your situation out loud.
- Look at your compass.When you first started doing this thing what was it that got you fired up? Pissed off? Determined to make a change? That’s where your internal compass should still be pointing, towards the ultimate cause. Every adjustment to your rudder should nudge you in that direction.
- Make a Move.If you’ve been stuck on which move to make, just make one. You’ve collected all of the data you’re going to be able to collect. Putting it off another day will rarely give you any new insight; you’ll just keep getting the same signals. So step out of your gridlocked reality and into a new one.Like another friend told me once, “It doesn’t matter. If it was the right decision at the time, it was the right decision.”
- Remember what you’re made of. ou have people. You have experiences. You have a heart and a brain. You have resources and the ability to listen. You have things that only you can offer the world. Accept those things and allow your sense of security to come from them.
It’s working for me.
Cheers,
BW
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